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My spouse doesn't work- they are on full disability from the VA but is very much able to do stuff around the house. We both used to work but they have been out of work (forced retirement w no pension) for almost 2 years now. When we both worked I picked up the kids and they made dinner as I worked later, so making dinner is nothing new. I always clean up after.

Since not working, dinner has gotten later and later- this week we were eating at 10pm. By 8:30 I start getting hangry and unable to focus. Over the last year I am working to transition from working FT for a company to FT freelancing, so I'm basically working 2 FT jobs now.

If I bring up that I need to eat, I get met with a huff and frantic putting dinner together with lots of slamming.

If I pull out leftovers and eat on my own I get gripped at for not eating with them, even if the plan was leftovers.

So, AITA for asking dinner to be ready around 8:30? I am upstairs working and will come down and help if asked but the whole thing is so frustrating. The only thing they do all day is cook dinner while I'm working at least 8 hours, 7 days a week.

Edit: no kids around- youngest is 19 and pretty much does his own thing (kiddo works and goes to school)