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So I just bought a house with my boyfriend of 4 years. He’s 25 and I’m 28. I recently graduated with my BA and landed a great career, and with that we were finally able to save enough to buy a home. We close in a little over a month.

Now his mom is already making plans to stay with us, even though she lives in the same city, and is talking about doing a “staycation.” She took off 4th of July weekend to spend it with my boyfriend at our house. She doesn’t drive at night and her car barely gets her to work, so this basically means she would be staying overnight. On top of that, she told my boyfriend she has to bring her dog. For context, it’s a large golden retriever.

I’m highly allergic to dogs and cats, to the point where I get hives and my throat can start to close. I told my boyfriend the dog cannot be in our home. He responded by asking if I could just “take an allergy pill” for a couple days. That really irritated me because it’s not that simple, and he knows how bad my reactions can get. He has seen it firsthand.

Aside from that, we will have only been living in our home for a month and she is already planning to stay. Some more context, she lives with her boyfriend and every couple of months she calls my boyfriend crying, saying she is going to leave him but has nowhere to go. She works part time and cannot really afford to leave. I’m worried that one day she will actually try to move in with us. The only reason that has not happened yet is because we are currently living at my parents’ house.

I don’t dislike her, she is sweet, but I do feel like she causes my boyfriend a lot of stress and I’m protective of him. He is always giving her money, and whenever we see her she is usually 30 minutes to an hour late. It just feels like a pattern.

I told my boyfriend I want at least a year of living in our home before anyone stays over. If his mom does leave her boyfriend, she could stay for up to 3 months, but that’s it. He agreed, but I’m honestly skeptical that when the time comes, my boundaries will actually be respected.

So, AITA for being on guard about his mom?