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For the past 4 years, my wife (36f) and I (39m) have been hosting her family for Thanksgiving dinner. I don’t have a relationship with my family . It’s usually about 30-40 people. We’re all adults with kids of all ages. So every year we have spent thousands of dollars and countless hours cleaning, shopping, prepping, cooking etc. its not easy for 2 people to host such a large bunch but every year we have pulled it off successfully. In the past, we’ve always spent Christmas at her dads house, but this year her dad said the family is just too big now for everyone to fit in his house (which is larger than ours) Ok, no problem, we’ll figure it out, right? So my wife kept asking what are we doing for Christmas, but nobody responds. Since we just hosted Thanksgiving, we didn’t feel obligated to host again. So it wasn’t until a few days before Christmas that she asked again and someone said, this has been planned, we’re going to suzy’s house (her sister). But we were not aware and not invited. After investigating further, we realized that we and a brother that lives out of the country were the only ones not invited. When my wife asked about it, she was told that only the people who didn’t have anywhere to go were invited. She said if they were all going to suzy’s, we would have no where to go. We weren’t even given a pity invite after we found out. I have been replaying Thanksgiving to identify any issues, but it was a great day- perfect, no issues. We literally can’t think of any reason that we weren’t invited besides the fact that we live about 2 hours away, so maybe they thought we wouldn’t find out? She doesn’t want to host, but said it’s up to me! Either way, WIBTA if we don’t continue to host Thanksgiving?